What We Should Value

These days our lives are bombarded with advertisements. Everywhere you look there’s an advertisement for some new tech to use or something shiny to wear or some off the wall celebrity to idolize.

We see these people and these things and are convinced that we need them in our lives. So, we throw ourselves into debt to buy the things that advertisements say we need, to look like the people we have no business looking like and spend our time breaking our backs at a job we probably don’t like so that we can pay off the debts we are unnecessarily drowning in. The problem here is that we are putting value in the wrong places.

What’s Truly Valuable

Time and relationships. These are what we should value. Value your time and value your relationships. When you begin to value your time, you realize just how much of it you’re wasting on needless things and useless activities. Wasting it on things like petty arguments, a tv binge, social media addiction, etc. Hours and days are wasted on these things. That’s time that can be put to making yourself better, improving your life, or sharing your life with a friend, family or spouse.

Value your relationships. This life is meant to be shared. Whether you share it through a marriage or a close friendship, sharing your life with another will bring you joy. When you reminisce, do you reminisce about the times you were alone or the times that you stayed up all night laughing with a friend? Or the weekend you spent with your spouse on a random road trip. Or the breakfast that you had with your parents when you were younger. It’s those moments that were shared with another or group of people you reminisce about.

Life is meant to be shared. We need each other.” —Lailah Gifty Akita

One of the top regrets of people on their deathbed is missing out on time with their family. Value your time and your relationships so that you will not have the regret of not spending enough time with family.

Quit Valuing These

Money and things. By things I mean materialistic items such as cars and jewelry. You may argue that money should be valued, but this is why I say it shouldn’t. Money itself will not bring you happiness.

Money is important, I will say that. Obviously you need it to provide certain necessities and the more you have of it, the more opportunities may open up to you, the more experiences you can have. But so much time is spent focusing on making money that you end up missing the experiences that the people on their deathbeds regret most.  Is making more money, no matter the amount worth missing the birth of your child or having one last conversation with your grandparents before they pass away?

Quit putting so much value into things. Things like cars, clothes, shoes, jewelry, and everything else. At the end of the day they are just things. Things that can be replaced.  Things with no feelings.  Things that won’t share anything with you. Things that cannot love you back or be a friend. They’re just things and are not the source of your happiness.

“We don’t buy things with money, we buy them with hours from our lives.” —Henry David Thoreau

Bottom Line

Value your time and relationships not money and things. This life is meant to be shared and we don’t want to leave it with the regret that we didn’t spend enough time with those we cared about.




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